Dream from the mailbag:
I have been having a recurring dream for around 8 months and I wandered if you could maybe tell me a way to make them stop.
My recurring dream is about a guy I went out with at school. I only went out with him for a few weeks so I wasn’t in love with him. I keep having the same dream but the places and surrounds are always different. My dreams are that were always together in a relationship and I’m really happy with him. I’m married with a child and love my husband to bits and I’m really happy with him so I can’t understand why I’m dreaming that I’m happy with another man. The dreams I have is always the same guy. He moved away during my school years so I haven’t had anything to do with him since school but all of a sudden I keep dreaming about him. I recently added him on Facebook as I thought it might help but it’s just made the dreams more vivid and more frequent.
Very interesting! Thank you so much for sharing your dream with me. Right off the bat, I want to start with the fact that you say you have been dreaming this for around 8 months. That is a lengthy period of time for a dream to continue so I hope I will be able to help you hear the message so you can clear out your dream-inbox.
What happened around 8 months ago that is still happening in your life today? Might not have to do with your husband at all, but with a love affair you have with something else. What in your life did you make or want to make a commitment to? Sometimes being married means any sort of long-term monogamous commitment, like a new job or project. Perhaps there is something about this particular person that you remember to add even more layers of meaning to the idea.
To help you understand why this person is being shown, we have to look at the characteristics of the symbol, in this case the old friend. This opportunity or commitment would be to something that you only did a few times before but weren’t “in love” with doing. Maybe something this mystery man from the past enjoyed doing or was present at the time it was introduced to you.
Overall, I say this dream has to do with something you committed to or have the opportunity to commit to. This thing that would be such a happy relationship in your life may be something you only did for a few short weeks in high school. Perhaps you don’t feel qualified or experienced in this area, or that you even know if you like to do it that much. Perhaps you lack confidence in your abilities or fear you don’t have enough familiarity with the project. Finally, because the places and surroundings are always changing, might this opportunity bring you new places and help you broaden your view-point or surround you with new people, places and ideas? If you are still having trouble making a connection, imagine back to how you felt when you were in the dream; that feeling of peace, love, protection, security, stable, mental, male energy and see if you feel that same way about a long-term commitment, job or opportunity in your life and go from there.
You can do it! And sounds like it will make you happy, so really, why feel badly about it? It is as though, your destiny is haunting you with some secret love sparked long ago but went too long unrequited. Perhaps when you confront how you really feel and what you really want do, the dreams will cease.
I hope this helps and good luck accomplishing your dreams!!
Update: Dreamer’s Response
I think you may have helped me figure it out. My Husband is a soldier and we move house every 2 years so I think that’s the commitment part you talked about and the scenes changing would represent us moving around so much.
We moved house around 8 months ago so that’s the big event you talked about.
I wonder if it is linked to this particular guy because he was the first person I had that had moved away from me?
I wonder if my subconsciousness is questioning if i would have a happier life not being married to a soldier.
I don’t feel that way in real time though, and I’m 100% committed to supporting my husbands career.
If it is this though I don’t know how I would stop the dreams from happening?
Without having a whole dream to decipher, I can really only use general ideas. My usual decoding technique looks at one whole dream, start to finish, whatever is remembered explained as clearly as possible. When you do this, you can more easily find where the topic in the dream began in our life, the course it has taken (so to speak) and the heart of the matter can be revealed. In my experience the end of the dream. The last part, forecasts or explains the resolution. It’s the message and in my experience, proves to be helpful. Do all the dreams end the same way?
Do you have a dream you want decoded? Go ahead and send us your dream. I dare you!
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