Dream from the mailbag:
I recently lost my step sister, whom I was very close to, to a rare form of cancer and since then have random dreams of her. She left the house when I was around the age of 12 to live with her mother. And I haven’t seen her since. She lived to be 24 and I am now 15. The dream that stood out most to me was this:
God granted her 24 hours to come back to our family and have some final words with them, because she wasn’t really allowed to have contact with us while she was living with her mother. At first, I was the only one who knew. She told me to meet her in her old room, and so I did. We spent hours catching up and telling her how much I miss her and need her back in my life. I asked her what heaven was like, and she put an image into my head of the black sky. It looked like space. There was a certain star that stood out from the rest and it was her. She was a star. I then took her to see the rest of the family and we were all so excited to have her back. And when we realized her time was almost up we all went back to her room and she hugged each of us and said her final goodbyes, lied on the bed with a single black rose, and fell back into eternal sleep.
Thank you for writing to me about your dream. I think it is beautiful and without adding too much of my personal beliefs into the mix, I will share with you the ideas that come to my mind. I will preface my response by saying that I have written in previous decodes my understanding that spirits can and do visit us in our sleep most likely because we are in a calm, receptive state, perhaps making it more easy for their communications to be received, since they don’t have to compete with all the activities and goings on of the day. That being said, let us move to the specifics of your dream…
God granted her 24 hours to come back to our family and have some final words with them, because she wasn’t really allowed to have contact with us while she was living with her mother.
I don’t see any reason to doubt this is actually the case. Of course, we could delve into the symbolism of being able to reconnect, but it is my feeling that this is simply explaining the nature of the contact you experienced. The coincidence of 24 being the number of hours for your meeting could also represent the 24 years you and your family were blessed with her presence.
At first, I was the only one who knew.
You, being the dreamer, would be the first to know, so this to me simply explains that you are the one who was sent the message to deliver to your family from your step-sister.
She told me to meet her in her old room, and so I did.
Her room, in the physical, would be a place where her energy is the strongest. Symbolically, she is inviting you to be with her in her space; the place where she dwells.
We spent hours catching up and telling her how much I miss her and need her back in my life.
As I understand it, from non-physical perspective, the concept of time goes out the window. While dreaming, we might experience what seems to be hours passing while only seconds have passed upon waking. I think your wanting to talk to her, explaining how important she is to you and your feelings that you need her in your life are most likely genuine and reflect your actual feelings. Perhaps this is explaining the reason for her visit as well. Your strong desire to reconnect and emotions most likely gave rise to this experience. If the situations were reversed, wouldn’t you come back to tell everyone that you are alright and that you are not forever gone.
I asked her what heaven was like, and she put an image into my head of the black sky. It looked like space. There was a certain star that stood out from the rest and it was her. She was a star.
There are many spiritual teachings that would align with this idea of heaven. And it is not a new idea that we may all be stars in the sky. From a symbolic standpoint, the idea or symbol of a star is an interesting one. Take our sun for example. It is a brilliantly bright, magnificent force that is just appropriately placed to bring life to this planet and has been worshiped as God for a very long time. The concept of “starseeds” come from this idea that each of us are stars in the heavens come down to Earth to learn and grow in light, love and wisdom. Of course, these are somewhat esoteric ideas, so I will give you a more simple example as well. A star is something placed far oft, but still visible to the eye. Like Polaris, it guides us from a far, ever shining brightly as a fixed point of perspective that rests high above our earthly world. As I see it, this is a very appropriate symbol for all souls.
I then took her to see the rest of the family and we were all so excited to have her back.
Did you share your dream with your family? Maybe they saw it as wishful thinking on your part, but I imagine, deep down, any form of communication would be a welcome source of happiness.
…she hugged each of us and said her final goodbyes, lied on the bed with a single black rose, and fell back into eternal sleep.
You may or may not know that a black rose does not exist in nature but is a creation of fiction. Roses sometimes symbolize an anniversary, her rose being black, may suggest the idea of remembering the anniversary of her farewell.
All in all, I think your dream is another example of a spirit visitation meant to ease your suffering and bring light to an otherwise mysterious situation, that of death. And even if it was just your imagination, it shouldn’t matter. You experienced something you needed to in order to bring about some peace in regard to your loss. You got to be with her again, if even in your dreams.
Hope this helps